Manipulative Maid Of Honor Gets Called Out For Her Antics By Bride

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Jul 10, 2021 11:00 AM EDT

It's almost refreshing to have a wedding drama that's not centered on a bride going full bridezilla mode. Yep, this time around we have what sounds like a terribly manipulative maid of honor who failed to put anyone but herself first, when it came time to make her friend's wedding festivities both mindful and special. Honesty, good on the bride for putting her friend in check. Hopefully their friendship is solid enough that they're able to make a comeback from the situation. Check out some crazy wedding fails from people over here to keep the wedding drama train rolling onward. 

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    Font - AITA for leaving my bachelorette party and telling my MOH to stop living vicariously through me? I (27F) got engaged to my fiancé in December 2019, around the same time as my BFF Chelsea (27F). We decided that we'd be each other's maid of honor. Chelsea and her ex split up shortly after the engagement because he cheated. My fiancé and I started planning a laid-back fall wedding a couple months ago. I asked Chelsea if she was still up to being MOH – she excitedly said yes. A few days later
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    Font - Something similar happened with the dress shopping. She had a list of places ready to go. I told her I wanted my friend, who is a seamstress, to make the dress. She convinced me to go shopping anyway, then ended up trying a lot of the dresses herself. I was weary when she mentioned a bachelorette party, but she presented plans that seemed perfect: a hike, a nice dinner, then a drive-in movie with my dog. I agreed.
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    Font - She picked me up on Saturday but instead of driving to the park we were supposed to hike in, she took me to a lake house. My heart dropped because I knew she'd planned a house party. Lo and behold, I walked in and my bridesmaids were there, as well as the women who I suspect Chelsea would've picked as bridesmaids. There was also a lot of liquor. I don't drink. My mother is an alcoholic and I want to avoid the same fate. While I don't mind being around people who are drinking, it's uncomfo
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    Font - Long story short, my future BIL came and picked me up and took me home. I didn't tell Chelsea myself (she was trashed at that point) and asked one of my bridesmaids to. Yesterday, woke up with 20+ texts and calls from Chelsea and a few others asking where I was and if I was okay. I texted Chelsea back, who told me she was headed to my place to talk. As soon as she walked through the door she started berating me, telling me she put so much effort into that party and I was so ungrateful. Sh
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    Font - She called me a bad friend and left. We haven't spoken since. So Reddit, AITA? 11.5k 562 Share
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    Font - nathashanails • 15h Partassipant [1] 1 Award NTA. I can forgive the dress shopping. That's not that big of a deal and understandable. But that fact that she lied about the bachelorette party is not okay. She knew you didn't drink yet made that a main focus. And then didn't let you know that she wasn't going to give you a ride home; which would harm your dog and inconvenience your BIL. She's out of line. I'd honestly demote her from MOH. She clearly can't handle it after not getting her ow
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    Font - coffeebean823113 · 15h Partassipant [2] 3 1 Award NTA. It would have been kind of iffy up to the point where she stranded you at the lake house and showed no consideration of your dog. That is uncalled for. G Reply 4 831 3 ...
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    Font - rebretz000 • 15h Partassipant [2] NTA If Chelsea was that drunk she wouldn't even remember you leaving if you told her and if you did she probably would have made a scene. Also it's very clear she's trying to live her bridal shower through you. 5 Reply 1 115
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    Font - SnooCookies10 · 15h Partassipant [2] NTA. she took you somewhere without your permission with no planning around you, the bride, and you had to find your own way home. so brutal. this girl is so selfish and if she doesn't realize that you are better off without her. G Reply 4 1.5k 3 +
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    Rectangle - SatansBurden • 15h Partassipant [1] NTA. She's clearly been planning for herself, not for you. She is the bad friend, and is just mad she got called out. G Reply 4 19 3 ...
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    Font - pdxflwerpwer • 15h NTA. She planned what she wanted, didn't care that you had other responsibilities and desired an entirely different way to celebrate your upcoming wedding. (I personally didn't have a bachelorette party, not my thing, and it's not required to getting married.) I feel very sorry for both you and your friend-- but I have to wonder if she was more upset about losing her wedding fantasy than losing the fiance? 6 Reply 4 53 3
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    Rectangle - endlessotter • 15h Partassipant [2] NTA You don't drink and she planned a bachelorette -- party with alcohol. You wanted to have your dress made and she insisted on trying on dresses. She is, either consciously and unconsciously, playing bride through your wedding planning. G Reply 1 16 3 ...
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    Font - Practical_Bowler5148 · 10h Don't mean to be harsh but if you keep up with this non confrontational attitude and you don't let her know you are okay with kicking her out the wedding if she keeps acting crazy than you're gonna make a next post titled AITA for being mad at my MOH when she showed up to my wedding wearing a wedding dress? G Reply 1 14 3 ...
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    Font - NTA She probably got too caught up planning what she thought was a great party to consider what you would enjoy, and the focus of a bachelorette party should be.. the bachelorette, right? A BFF should have far more consideration for your dog, your family history with alcohol (I presume you've told her before), your privacy (not telling you beforehand she wants to stay the night), your preferences (saying it's a hike knowing you'd prefer that, but lying). G Reply 4 23 3 + ...
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    Font - hpghost62442 • 11h NTA. Friends do not purposefully trigger friends. Good people do not leave people stranded nor do they leave someone's pet to be without car for a whole night. She's not a good person or friend and you deserve much better G Reply 5 ...
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    Font - NTA but you should have texted her you had to go home to take care of the dog. She wanted to be the bride not the MOH. It is huge no- no for anyone other that the bride to try on wedding dress (other than bridesmaids/MOH dresses), it's pretty crappy to try and steal your spotlight. She planned a bachelorette party for herself not you. She's behaved pretty bad and you deserve an apology. G Reply ...
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    Font - burrrcolddd • 13h NTA I think it's obvious she was using your wedding events to play out what she was supposed to have, very selfish of her. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - fritchman77 · 11h NTA. You were lied to. Pretty well seals it for me. G Reply ...
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    Font - NTA. She is deliberately sabotaging things that are supposed to be special memories for you by making them about herself. Demote her from MoH, and consider taking her out of the wedding completely. I'd be worried she's going to try to make your wedding day about her too. Personally l'd suggest consider uninviting her altogether unless she can get her act together. She's not acting like much of a friend, and I wouldn't be giving her any more opportunities to ruin any more future special oc
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    Font - miriam377 · 1h NTA. A maid of honor would respect the bride's wishes. As you stated she went and did everything as if she was planning her own wedding. I hope you have another MOH who can respect you and what you want. My mother lived her wedding vicariously through me and I wish some things were different. G Reply ...
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